ANSWER: If you’re like lots of women I’ve talked to, then it’s your experience that men overwhelmingly seem to go for the “B” women – women who don’t really have their life together in some important ways. Here are two reasons a man might make the mistake of choosing a less “together” or successful woman over you.
"Men prefer physical fitness in women gained via yoga, aerobics and gym, not via rugby and bodybuilding," explains Prof Khan, "while women prefer bravery, courage and a willingness to take risks rather than kindness and altruism in their partners." Another recent study showed that words such as "skiing", "yoga" and "the ocean" help men get dates; "sweet", "running" and "dance" help women get dates online. Liking Radiohead, Homeland, Pulp Fiction and The Great Gatsby are effective date words, and mentioning cats is fine, as long as you don't say "my cats".
I was doing research for a dating service branding project, but I took away two things I didn’t expect: first, that online dating sites (depending on which ones you join) are actual full of great people who are looking for an alternative to clubs and bars for meeting new people, and second that there are some oft-overlooked tricks to online dating that, according to many of the conversations I had, most people are not using. Make use of them, and you (and your date) should have a much more pleasant experience (and maybe you’ll find the girl or guy or transgendered person you’ve been looking for)! Do not, I repeat, DO NOT pretend to be something you are not while online dating.
Not only will this lead to inevitable disappointment for your date, it will also end with inevitable embarrassment on your part when your date walks out on you, comments on how much weight you’ve gained or hair you’ve lost since you took the photo on the site, or asks you where the tattoo went (this is an actual story I was told..apparently a guy that the storyteller went on a date with had Photoshopped a tattoo onto his arm in order to strike up a conversation with the girl, who liked tattoos…she was not amused when she found out).
I’ve got a quick fascinating little quiz for you that’s going to show you something you need to know about men. Is it: A) A woman who’s smart, independent and “together.” Or…
B) A woman who doesn’t seem to have that much going for her and seems to “need” a man and a relationship. Why don’t they see what an amazing catch you and the women who have their act together are?