Dealing with the loss of a spouse is bad enough, but seeing your children suffer – waking from nightmares about their mum, crying uncontrollably without warning, getting upset at school at the slightest trigger – is even worse.
Mother's Day became the most dreaded day of the year.
Based on responses and match filters, compatible members will appear…The heart of our family had been ripped away from us, and as much as counselling helped me come to terms with the reality, the gaping hole remained.After a while, though, I realised that eventually I would have to try to fill the gaping hole and I began to think about another aspect of my situation – being single again after 14 years of marriage. One day, my daughter asked me if I was going to get a girlfriend. After a pause, she asked with a hint of excitement: "Will we get a baby brother or sister? Often just the word “Dating” can elicit a shudder, a negative response, or prompt a memory of that awful first date you went on that caused many moments of wondering if you were on a reality television show that places people in awkward positons and leaves you wondering “is this really happening to me?” Those same dates become the cornerstone conversation with your friends over dinner, until you all laugh until your stomachs cramp and there are tears flowing out of your eyes.