Questions to ask a guy before dating

We talked to the experts, including a former CIA officer, to figure out what answers you need before you get intimate with him—and what the right questions are to see the red flags.

STIs are serious business, and that means that you can't gloss over the topic just because it doesn't match the mood, says human sexuality researcher Nicole Prause, Ph. "Data shows that when people say 'I'm clean,' what they really mean is that they haven't seen any active growths," Prause says.

If you can just get your hair, abs, complexion, and clothes just right, then The One will scamper to you like a squirrel to a nut factory. Sure appearance might catch someone’s eye, but it’s personality, values, faith, heart, past, present, and future that’s going to make them stay.

Your petals might be beautiful, but if you don’t have any nectar then the bees are just going to fly away. It can prop up an intimacy that has no foundation to sustain it.

Many of my patients have asked me when it is appropriate for them to find out crucial information about someone they are thinking of continuing to date.

They want to know early on if they should invest the time and energy that a quality relationship requires.

My answer most often is: “When you are not yet invested in the outcome.” That means as early in a new relationship as you can.

With Valentines Day coming upon us, I’ve updated this earlier post to make it fifteen needed questions you need to ask you and your dating relationship.

There are many things you could ask that would gain you the information you need, but there are ten potent and successful data gathering questions that successfully begin the process of really knowing who someone is.

Because they are deeply intimate inquiries, it is also important that you approach your potential partner from authentic curiosity and a love of mutual exploration.

Despite what movies tell us, there's no hard and fast rule about when you should have sex with your new guy for the first time.

Maybe it's five minutes after you meet him, or maybe it's after marriage—no judgment!