Drew Johnson has learned that when it comes to asking a woman out, texting beats calling every time."Most of the girls I've hung out with lately prefer a group activity rather than one-on-one," says Johnson, 30, a mechanical engineer from West Chicago, Ill., who plays bass in a band."From my observations, the response rate on, 'Do you want to go for dinner or meet for a drink?As I argue in “DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” the college and post-college hookup culture is a byproduct, not of Tinder or Facebook (another target of modern scolds), but of shifting demographics among the college-educated.
Hearing someone's voice on the phone is still a key element for a relationship, yet people are increasingly more likely to rely on the relative "safety" of a text for initial contacts as well as keeping in touch as a relationship develops. Although the survey was commissioned by two niche dating websites — Christian and — their members did not participate.In the Vanity Fair article, David Buss, a University of Texas psychology professor, says that apps like Tinder contribute to “a perceived surplus of women,” among straight men, which in turn leads to more hookups and fewer traditional relationships.Here’s the thing: This surplus of women is not just “perceived” but very, very real.The British side is written by London-based e Harmony Editor Julia Filsell, and the American side by Pasadena-based e Harmony Content Director, Grant Langston. It seems to be an issue that neatly divides daters.For some it feels unnatural and creepy, for others it’s the only sensible way to proceed.